Demo · Wendy coaching Sam, parent of two who also looks after his dad · AI coach, not a human
His dad's appointment is tomorrow, nobody has said who drives, and asking his sister feels like pressure.
Wendy reads only the cards people have shared, never anyone's answers.
Wendy:
Evening, Sam. Three places I can help tonight: your dad and tomorrow's ride, an evening with Alex that isn't logistics, or the mornings with the kids. Where are you stuck today?
Sam:
An aging parent
Wendy:
Ray's appointment is tomorrow at ten and nobody has said who's driving. You offered, he said the bus, and you let it go. Dani asked what time. Neither of you asked the other. Which first: Ray, or Dani?
Sam:
Ray. He says he'll take the bus and I don't want to make him feel managed.
Wendy:
From what you've told me, not a card: he hates being driven and hates being handled even more. The ride he took had coffee after. Ask, don't offer: "Hardware store after tomorrow. Me driving, or Dani?" Tonight?
Sam:
And Dani. She took him the last two weekends without being asked. I feel like I can't ask for more.
Wendy:
You'd rather everyone agree first, and you'd rather not push, so you've been waiting for her to offer. My guess is she's waiting for you to ask. Your card says it: ask Dani, don't wait. Want me to write it?
Sam:
Yes.
Wendy:
"Can you take Dad tomorrow at ten, or should I? Either works, I just want it settled tonight." One question, no plan. After tomorrow, one more line, because the split has never been said out loud. Send the first now?
Tomorrow, the shortest version
Ray at ten, then errands, and the hardware store if he wants it.
Driver: whoever answers tonight, you or Dani.
June's form, due tomorrow, still on the fridge.
Alex is on shift. Bath is yours.
Wendy:
Evening, Sam. Three places I can help tonight: your dad and tomorrow's ride, an evening with Alex that isn't logistics, or the mornings with the kids. Where are you stuck today?
Sam:
Connecting with a spouse
Wendy:
You and Alex haven't had a conversation that wasn't logistics since Ray moved in. Alex worked today and is on again tomorrow and Saturday. Want to start with the kitchen decision that drifted, or with an evening that isn't logistics?
Sam:
The kitchen one. We agreed bath and drop-off last night. This morning Alex was gone at 6:15; I did both.
Wendy:
From what you've told me, not a card: Alex settles things in the hallway and says them once; you take longer and say it softer. To Alex a kitchen agreement is done. Want a line for the fridge tonight?
Sam:
Sure. But it's the other thing. I miss talking to Alex and don't know how to say it without complaining.
Wendy:
You recharge solo, and need more together than you show. You handle things matter-of-fact, and need more heartfelt than you ask for. Both are first reads, so this is my read. Which is closer to what you miss?
Sam's pattern, from his report: Room Reader, who recharges solo.Six spokes, one per pattern. The longer the spoke, the more Sam is like that pattern. The longest is Sam's.
Sam:
The together one. The evening where nobody needs me is nice, but I'd rather it be an evening with Alex.
Wendy:
Then say that, in that order, and say it once. Your card says you'll say it softly, so listen for it. This one at full volume. When is Alex next home before ten?
Two lines for this week
Tonight: "Can we write the shift-day split on the fridge?"
Sunday: "I need an evening with you that isn't about Dad or the kids."
Wendy:
Evening, Sam. Three places I can help tonight: your dad and tomorrow's ride, an evening with Alex that isn't logistics, or the mornings with the kids. Where are you stuck today?
Sam:
The kids' mornings
Wendy:
Two mornings this week went the way you wanted and one didn't, and you counted the week by the one. Tuesday was shoes by the door. Wednesday was shoes and the cup the night before. What's set out for tomorrow?
Sam:
Nothing yet. And Ms. Okafor wants a five-minute call about the mornings. I said "any time" and never gave one.
Wendy:
A yes without a when is Dani and the ride again: you'd rather nobody feels pushed, so nothing gets settled. Two things tonight: the list below, and one line to Ms. Okafor with a time in it. Which first?
Tonight, by the door
Leo's shoes, gym day or not.
The cup, chosen the night before.
June's form: Alex's signature and the emergency contacts, due tomorrow.
Ms. Okafor: "Monday at lunch, five minutes?"
Sam:
Shoes first. But the first Wednesday had no gym, no shoes, and still a meltdown over the cup.
Wendy:
Not the shoes; the night before. Both good mornings were decided while the house was quiet, where you think best. The other, at seven with a first-grader. I can't read Leo, and I won't. What went well enough today?
Sam:
Dinner. Leo showed Ray his gym stamp. That was a good one and I nearly didn't log it.
Wendy:
You logged it as "good, actually": the quiet voice talking. The loud one counts the week by its hardest morning. Keep that one. If it's after ten and the laptop's open, then it goes in the drawer. Say it back?
Three good things, from your own log
Wednesday, again: shoes out, cup chosen, out the door at 7:55.
Three answers, not one label. How you decide, what you need from the people at home, and what a hard week does. The gap between the first two is where most friction lives.
No good end. Quick is not careless. Deliberate is not slow. Straight is not unkind. Gentle is not evasive. Wendy names the pattern, never the verdict.
About 9 minutes for the basic report. The advanced report adds five more measures, free, whenever you want it.
It's a self-report profile of how you work, in layers: how you act, what you need from others, and what stress does to you. It's built for the next conversation, not for a label. No measure has a good end.
Do you profile the people I talk about?◈
No. Wendy works from what you say about them and never builds a report of anyone but you. At home, nobody else has a card.
Do I need a card to start?◈
No. The report is free and needs no payment card. A team's plan is 14 days free with a payment card on file; the amount and the first-charge date are shown before you pay and emailed to you the day the workspace is set up, and cancelling is one tap.